Amy . . .

What would you like to know? I am fun, but crazy. I have a most perfect husband, and 2 cats named Samson and Delilah. We are presently working on adopting a little girl from China and have a separate blog for that. I am a Christian and am working on a better relationship with him. I live in the Atlanta area and love sharing stories with people. I am also a pediatric nurse and I love it! I love to talk and meet new people and I love Disney Cruising

Tuesday, August 28, 2007

Love, love and marriage

Blogging is a complicating thing sometimes. I blogged at first just to get some stuff out of my head and now its a hobby. I do want people to get to know me, but I also do not want to be too personal. I think I have done a good job. One of my weaknesses is that I care way too much about what people think. In fact I worry so much that it makes most situations worse, guaranteed. If I think someone has offended someone I personally try to fix regardless if someone is actually offended. I dont think its a control thing but it might be. I appreciate all of you who read this and as much as I used to do anything for comments, I am much more relaxed. i appreciate those who have said I am cheerful, positive and very nice. Thank you. I wish I was like that all the time.

I have some weaknesses including
-having a hard time losing weight
-sticking my foot in my mouth
-not giving 100%
-paranoia
-worried that I will disappoint someone

I am working on some of those but I need to try harder.

There are a few things in my life that I am sure of.

1)I have a God who loves me unconditionally, no matter what I do. This makes me feel so happy inside.
2)One day I will die. There is nothing I can do to change this. Mind you, I do not focus on this but its a fact
3)I am married to a wonderful man who sometimes is misunderstood. I am so glad he chose me to marry and we have so much fun together. I am blessed and look forward to working on making our marriage better.

ON that last note, I just finished a book by Karen Kingsbury who is one of my favorite authors. She has written the greatest series and if you are looking for wonderful gift for a family member or friend, check any of her books out. Anyway, in this one book she talked about love.

These are 10 secrets to happy marriage found in Forever by Karen Kingbury

1. God has you here to serve on another. Love acted out is serving
2. Women need respect and nurturing. love your wife so she knows you'd lay your life down for her. Continue to date her and admire her. Share a hobby-find something you can do to have fun together
3.Laugh often
4.Be patient. Love crumbles quickly under the weight of unmet expectations
5. Spend more time trying to fix yourself than your spouse.
6. Keep short accounts. The Bible says, "'Do not let the sun go down while you are angry." Make it a habit to forgive.
7. Determine up front that divorce is not an option/
8. Learn about love languages. Not all people show love or receive it the same way. You want a back rub and your spouse wants a clean kitchen. The love languages are fairly simple: acts of service, time, physical touch, gifts and words of affirmation. Learn them. Love is better received when its in the language that person speaks.
9.Words of affirmation are a love language for all men.
10. Men are born to be leaders. He can not lead unless she gives him the confidence to do so. If you love your husband, build him up. Confident men do not seek love outside the home

How true are these? I have not read the book The Five Love Lanugages but I definitely want to.

17 comments:

CJ and Donna said...

Great facts about marriage. Love it and strive to live it everyday.

FRIGGA said...

Yes, I too have noticed the addictive characteristics of comments! ;-)

De said...

One of the best books my hubby and I have in our library for understanding the other is For Men Only & For Women Only by Shanti Feldhahn and Jeff Feldhahn. It doesn't give the steps for a great marriage, but it does give insight that had me asking my hubby "seriously...you think this way?!?!" After 13 years of marriage. It did the same for him. I HIGHLY recommend using this in addition to the others.
Blessings,
De

Michelle said...

oh Amy we all have our weaknesses...none of us are perfect! At least you acknowledge what yours are and are striving to work on them!

What great "secrets" to a marriage! Something everyone should read!

Agapetospaidiske said...

That is a good book! My hubby and I have discovered that we have very different love languages.

kailani said...

The one hard thing about blogging is trying to convey your tone. I always worry if what I'm typing is coming across the right way. It's so easy to misinterpret words.

Love those marriage tips!

BTW, thanks for stopping by!

Amy said...

Dear Amy, the first thing to fixing our weaknesses is to acknowledge them...and you have done just that! Another is the desire to change...again, you want to do that too! I struggle with so many issues and I found this site the other day that gave me passages to work on. It's about putting off our old character and becoming more like Christ.

http://www.soulcare.org/Counseling/putoff-puton.html

And no, I don't have a problem with all the list! But I do have many characteristics that are not glorifying God, that's for sure. I always feel like I'm preachy and I hope you take it as encouragement..
I understand more than you realize. I have a feeling we are a lot alike.

And I think as you get older you're gonna realize that it doesn't matter what people think of you. Honestly! It's their loss if they choose not to associate with you. Be yourself. I am always surprised my friends stick around me when they've seen the ugly side of me, but they come back for more!

And remember to keep praying for these things you want to change...God will help when we fully commit. He wants the best for us. I know it is easier said than done because I'm preaching to myself once again!

Take care girlfriend. Just like in High School Musical...we're all in this together! :o)

a soldier's wife said...

Hi,
Thank you for stopping by my blog. I hope you'll be back. I really enjoyed this post. I worry about many of the same things you've listed.

erin said...

What a great list! I love Karen Kingsbury's books.

Bubba's Sis said...

Very, very good advice. Our small group at church did a several-weeks-long study on marriage and one of the things we did was the men made a list of what they wanted their wives to know and vice versa - it was very enlightening and echoed many of the things listed here.

Blessings to you!

Carol said...

And I'd like to add....try not to take out the wait frustrations on each other...that is a hard one for us.....we stress out sometimes....need to sit back and breathe!!

Annette said...

Sounds like a good book...may have to check it out.

Sparky Duck said...

ok, you went into the bible and i sort of glazed over, but, you have a good blog here. one thing you can't do is care what people think about your thoughts. look at me, a conservative might think me a bastard, yet i dont care.

amy said...

you are correct mr duck. I shouldnt care about what people think. I love this blog. Thanks for being nice to me and my hubby

steven.russell said...

The one thing I have learned about blogging is that you just have to be yourself.

People have the option of coming by your site or leaving. If they don't like what you say, let them go.

I refuse to be something I am not on my blog. If I ever start trying to appease all the people that come by and read, I just need to stop blogging. I didn't make the blog for them. I made it for me to give me an outlet for my thoughts.

People just need to start accepting other people's points of view and stop walking around thinking they are right all the time.

Frazzled Farm Wife said...

"The five love languages" is a wonderful book...I highly recommend it!

amy said...

THanks everyone. Steven you are my blogging mentor. You were the first blog I have read and started on xanga when you were there.

One of my weakness since college (heck who am I kidding, Ive had this problem long before that) is that I care way to much about what people think. BLogging has been such a good thing for me and I have had some mentally healthy discussions.